Earlier this month, Mister’s cousin suddenly passed away. They grew up together and were rather close, so his passing has really taken a toll on our family. He was a great friend and father and sometimes I think that makes it harder. Mourning him opened up my own wounds about the people that I have lost. As much as you want to celebrate their life, the thought that you’ll never talk to them again stings you over and over.
The grieving process is such a personal thing. Everyone has their own way to mourn their loved one. Reminiscing about the good times you shared, taking a walk, or even doing an activity that person used to enjoy are all ways to grieve. And the length of time that it takes to heal varies from person to person. My grandma and I were very close my whole life. We did everything together – travel, bingo, church, movies, made forts with the couch cushions. She even stayed in my college dorm with me for a week at 89 years old! When she passed, I was so hurt that my buddy was gone. It was very hard to let her go, but that would have been selfish of me to wish she had lived longer (because she was sick). She lived a great life and I’m thankful that I got to spend so much time with her. I say all of that to say, if you are grieving someone right now, it will get easier. It doesn’t seem like it will, but the old saying is true, time heals all wounds. And it’s not that you love or miss them any less, but the sting subsides a bit and you begin to actually celebrate their life and smile when you think of them.
Please take 10 minutes to practice this meditation. I wish peace and healing to you.